I worked a client case yesterday and looked at their backgrounds. Wife...Welsh and husband...Iraqi. They have been married since 1967.
Further system searches carried out brought more different names and backgrounds linked to them by marriage. At least by my estimation, my clients have at least 4 children that married other nationals.
A friend joined me and we at least figured out that people from 8 other countries including Kuwait, Nigeria and Kenya have joined my clients family. They are great grand parents.
As I praised this family, TJ my friend who has an Akure connection with me shocked me when he said his wife of 17 years is a true daughter of Glasgow.
Now, this guy is always talking about his wife disturbing him to get his parents out of Naija to come and live with them permanently as she loves to eat my friend’s mum draw soup.
He doesn’t want his parents around all the time because the parents were always supporting the wife with her ‘crazy’ ideas. Friend, raised in Akure and Lagos like me doesn’t like swallow foods but wife, descendant of highlanders of Scotland can never pass a day without swallow food.
In fact, three years ago, the wife actually went alone to Nigeria to spend 3 months with my friend’s parents to improve more on her kitchen skills. I just laughed when I remembered the time my friend stopped joining us to buy Chinese food across the street.
The wife took it upon herself to pack jollof rice and other Naija stuffs for my friend. He once brought Eba to work as well. His Oyinbo wife made it. Meanwhile, I thought the wife was a Naija babe from another tribe until yesterday.
As we laughed over this, I felt sad immediately.
The same week an old school friend of mine from Naija married a Sri Lankan woman in 2012 I guess, somebody at work asked me if I knew someone like me that could be trusted with a lady in their church with half Sri Lankan and half Caribbean background.
I can’t remember the back ground of the lady fully but I know the British lady had Sri Lankan blood in her.
I immediately talked to someone I know in Naija about this. The manner he answered me shocked me and I kept quiet.
His excuse was that communication in marriage matters to him and he would rather marry somebody he can understand well than strangers!
Today, he doesn’t understand at all the same lady that he married from his village! They speak the same language oh!
In the Bible, imagine if Salmon the leader of the tribe of Judah had not married Rahab the harlot, there would not have been Boaz who was half ‘Jericho’ and half Hebrew!
Now imagine if Boaz the kinsman Redeemer and with Jericho blood in him had said ‘no’ to Ruth the Moabitess!
So Obed, the father of Jesse and the grandfather of King David was half Moabite, one quarter Hebrew and one quarter ‘Jerichoan’ if my quick maths is correct.
By the way, it is believed that David’s mother was not married to his father. His mother was a ‘mistress’ from another neighboring country. We only had hints from the Bible on that.
How can a Samuel ask a father about his sons and you will forget your last born? No, Jesse didn’t forget! He only brought his legitimate sons for the sacrifice as per the tradition.
Uriah the husband of Bathsheba that was a ranking officer in David’s army was a Hittite from what is known as Turkey today.
Don’t also forget that Abraham married women from other backgrounds after the death of Sarah oh. In fact, Hagar was a black woman!
Moses wife was black as well. Of course you might say he grew up in a palace of black kings. Joseph too married the daughter of Egyptian babalawo and she gave him Ephraim and Manasseh.
Anyways, I have looked around and I can confirm that true love can be found anywhere!
One of my colleagues, a Yoruba lady from Ijesha land is married to a Nasarawa man. A friend on Facebook introduced them in 2009. They were married in 2011. They are both settled here in the UK.
Another friend Diya is an Indian lady I once wrote about her here. She quietly got married to a Polish guy. She is on maternity break with her Polish husband in India as we speak.
I think failures or misunderstanding in marriages are NOT down to race, colour, marriage, ethnicity or anything else.....it is the individual people in that marriage that will decide whether to work on a marriage or not.
Our selfishness, greed, stubbornness, unforgiveness and unteachable hearts are the things killing marriages today!
If you can be wise enough to avoid interferences from third party elements, you will have a sound marriage.
Try and give love a chance from anywhere. God did not create us to be monotonous. He created us to be diverse.
Somebody is asking why I didn’t marry a foreigner! Only if you knew me well and my adventurous spirit.
I wanted to go farrrrrrr....but ‘someone’ got my attention in the same week that was deadline I set to go ahead searching for love beyond our shore. I am grateful for that.
But if you are out there....have an open mind to love.
Will I have an open mind with my others? Yes! As long as they are children of God and they are not extra terrestrials from another planet!
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